Can the abuser be cured

With therapy, yes. It takes dedication and a real desire to stop the abuse.

AnswerYes, but they do not want to. In their minds, they love control. With abusing a person comes control with all its benefits. These types doubt their masculinity and control makes them feel in charge and powerfull. The abuser has everyone at his mercy, he gets things his way. For example, an abuser can skip you birthday sometimes without any real conflict. The victim is worn down and afraid to speak up and if she does it gets shoved down her throat! The abuser therefore, does not have to bother with anything that requires getting off the couch.