What should you do if you've been with your husband for 3 years and he took on you and your 3 kids as his own but always says he wants to leave you?

I think you know that something has been brewing for several months now and this is not a complete shock to you. I suggest you sit down with him and ask him why he feels like this. It sounds like there is a communication gap between you. If you allow your children to get away with things they have no business doing and he tries to be strict with them and you won't let him, then there is something right there that will drive a man away faster than a skunked hound. If you can afford it why don't you have relatives or a good friend look after the kids and you and your husband take a fun mini holiday. He may not be in the mood now, but perhaps getting away will help. Take long walks together and try to work this out between the two of you. He sounds like a nice enough guy if he would take on your children. I think he bit off a little more than he can chew right now and he knows it, but, there are ways to lessen the load for him so that is what you both have to work on. Good luck Marcy